From
the Record Online
Celebrating
a hero, clinging to memories
Tuesday, December 11, 2001
By
MIKE KELLY
Record Columnist
--
NEW YORK
They
brought Frank Callahan's memory home Monday. They're still looking for his body.
Remember
that when someone tells you it's time to move beyond this tragedy of the World
Trade Center. Remember that when they tell you today's three-month anniversary
ought to be a turning point toward something called closure.
For
some, this is not even the beginning of the end. This isn't about
closure.
This isn't about turning points. This anniversary really ought to be
about
preserving memory.
Frank
Callahan is one of 3,096 killed on that Tuesday in September when
hijacked
jetliners turned the Twin Towers into piles of pulverized concrete
and knots
of mangled steel.
One
of every 10 who died that day in lower Manhattan was trying to rescue someone
-- 343 firefighters, 37 Port Authority police officers, and 23 New York City cops.
But they were not alone in their heroism. Dozens of civilians are thought to have
died, too -- including another 37 Port Authority civilians -- when they didn't
run from the towers but stayed behind to help.
Remember
that.
Callahan,
a fire captain, perished with 10 members of his firehouse -- a
grotto-like
spot on the northwest side of Lincoln Center. The "cavemen," the firefighters
called themselves. Of the 11 who died in that firehouse, only one body has been
found and given a proper burial. And of the 3,096 overall dead, fewer than 500
bodies have been recovered and identified for burial.
Remember
that. The rest of the Sept. 11 victims are consigned to memory. Indeed, at this
anniversary -- this so-called turning point -- there is little else to cling to
besides memory.
And
so, on Monday afternoon, as hundreds of firefighters -- some from Germany and
California -- gathered at Lincoln Center's Alice Tully Hall for
Callahan's
memorial service, you heard a lesson in memory and how to keep it alive.
You
learned that Frank Callahan was a man of few words but had the
mirth-filled
heart of a practical joker. Once, he delighted his firefighters
by dancing
down the middle of Central Park West. You learned that soot clung to Callahan's
handlebar mustache at fires, that he loved to wear the same flannel shirt while
off duty, that he was a "man of few words" but had "a look"
that, as Firefighter Robert Menig explained to gales of laughter, could reduce
burly men into "confusion, bewilderment, or near panic."
You
learned that Callahan impressed his wife's family by getting up to dry
the
dishes at family gatherings, that he sat for hours patiently listening to
his
daughter try to play the piano, that he was big enough to knock down a door but
gentle enough to cuddle a baby.
You
learned that he always went into a fire first.
And
then you learned this: When Callahan rode off to the World Trade Center on Sept.
11, he made three phone calls -- to his wife at her school, to his home to check
on a sick child, and to his 20-year-old daughter to make sure she did not go to
her job at the Twin Towers. She didn't.
In
short, we learned Frank Callahan was human. When heading into danger, he first
made sure his family was safe. On Monday, in her eulogy, you heard that daughter,
Nora, read an all-too-human letter she would like her father to hear, telling
him she wanted him to now know how united his city seems. "You wouldn't believe
it," she said.
As
for the mourners, many find strength in these celebrations of ordinary
life.
Harry McKay, a retired New York Fire Department captain, has gone to more than
two dozen services. Collin Thomas, of the New Brunswick Fire Department, has been
to five. Lt. Jim Schumeyer, a drummer in the New York Fire Department band and
a member of an elite rescue team that lost six men, has gone to more than 100.
"I'd rather be here than anywhere," he said.
In
his eulogy, Callahan's colleague at the Lincoln Center firehouse, Capt.
James
Gormley, noted how Sept. 11 had touched us in so many personal ways -- from offices,
to families, to firehouses.
"It's
a story," Gormley said, "that must be told until it makes sense."
Remember
that.
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